After six years and 355 episodes of the workshops work podcast, I was left with a paradox: The more we strive to be professional, the harder it becomes to connect to one another honestly, vulnerably β as humans. With my podcast and newsletter, I want to inspire the courage it takes to bring more of ourselves to work. Each week, I dig into moments of professional risk, from my own life, and from conversations with guests on my podcast, Unprofessionalism.
Putting ourselves in boxes || π€ Episode 17 on Small Talk Is Big Talk with Julie Brown
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Hi Reader, While cycling in the sun, enjoying my free Wednesday, it suddenly hit me like a sharp stone: Over the past five months Iβve been splitting my identity into tidy boxes that wouldn't overlap. Displaying old Facilitator-me on Substack, while the other part of me hatched a new narrative around Unprofessionalism. Unprofessionalism-me tries to write a book and challenges her own professionalism. And suddenly, I look at myself and think how damn professional of me! Isn't it the most professional thing we do, to compartmentalise ourselves in parts that we curate and display for different audiences? Social media is just the tip of the iceberg. Underneath there are the parts of private us that nobody knows about at work, the professional parts of us that nobody knows about at our evening activities. The adult parts of us that our native families don't know, and the child-like parts of us that our partners miss out on. What for? The separation takes more work and effort, more curation and performance while everyone misses out on the good stuff, the real us, the anecdotes that spark curiosity and connection. I decided to stop that. The compartments that is. I'm trying to merge all these parts to follow through with the word I chose for the year: integrity - aligning the inner world with the outer world. π€ Waiting for you on the Unprofessionalism podcast:Most of us have undersold ourselves at least once. Taken less than we were worth because saying the real number out loud felt like too much, too bold, too presumptuous, too likely to end the conversation before it started. Julie Brown said it out loud. She made up a number on the spot and it changed the trajectory of her entire career. Today, as a speaker, she swears on stage, says no to clients who want her to be someone she isn't, and has built an entire career on refusing to edit herself out. The through line from that salary conversation to where she is now is the same: she decided what she was worth before anyone else confirmed it. π§ Click here to listen to the interviewπ₯ Download my 1-page summaryβUP_017_Summary.pdfβ π§ The workshops work Podcast ClubThe workshops work podcast has retired and I am devoted to preventing the old episodes from gathering digital dust in the archives. The podcast Club keeps the conversations alive. This month, we gather around the question: Who Holds the Pen? Inspired by my conversations with Judy Rees on Clean Language and Ole Qvist-SΓΈrensen on Visual Language. βClick here to find out more and sign up.β That's it from my side. I hope to see you next week! Myriam
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What does it cost to be yourself β at work?
After six years and 355 episodes of the workshops work podcast, I was left with a paradox: The more we strive to be professional, the harder it becomes to connect to one another honestly, vulnerably β as humans. With my podcast and newsletter, I want to inspire the courage it takes to bring more of ourselves to work. Each week, I dig into moments of professional risk, from my own life, and from conversations with guests on my podcast, Unprofessionalism.
Hi Reader, Let me start with an update: After six months, I have disentangled the two podcasts again. Workshops Work and Unprofessionalism now have both their own home and feed: Unprofessionalism Podcast Workshops Work Podcast Here is the long story of why and why now. A while back, "The final episode of workshops work with Myriam Hadnes" pulled a few hundred downloads per week. That's unusually many for an episode that's months old and where I hadn't said anything particularly brilliant to...
Hi Reader, What's making it hard for you? You can replace "it" by any action item you're procrastinating. My current most procrastinated item is business development. The deck is almost ready, ready enough to be sent and still I am not doing it. A colleague asked me the obvious question last week: Why not? Funny enough, it suddenly felt uncomfortably obvious. And for once it wasn't any of the reasons I'd run to a therapist or coach for: No childhood wound or mommy issues, no fear of rejection...
Hi Reader, I'm just coming back from a 20 km run, as part of my marathon training. Funny enough, every week, when I leave the house for a long run, I have a moment of doubt and excitement, wondering whether my body will support me in this endeavour. And when I'm back, I feel amazing and remember that I'm training for this. Each week, the mileage increases by one kilometer. Each week, I believe I couldn't do more until the next week, when I do it and cannot believe the extra kilometer the week...