Dear Reader,

For years, coaches and therapists have told me: "You need to sit with your emotions. Just feel them."

I'd nod confused, slightly annoyed because nobody ever answered my two questions:

1. What do I actually do when I sit with them?
2. And then what (after we're done sitting)?

It seemed as if I needed to process, understand, analyse, journal, dance it out—something. The magic step!

Then came the card game.

I was playing with my partner. Great cards in my hand, I was going to win. Until she made a completely legal move and stole one of my cards. The best one, of course.

And then she did it again.

I felt the anger rise through my entire body. Heat flooding up from my core. My chest getting tight and stiff. My jaw clenching. I was furious - over a card game! With someone I love! About something that didn't matter at all!!!

I felt angry like a child and absolutely ridiculous at the same time.

This time though, instead of sucking it up, I expressed how angry I was, exactly where I felt it in my body, describing its path.

I ended up laughing. The anger released.

And the, I could see it clearly: this was a ghost from the past showing up uninvited. My brain connecting old memories that had nothing to do with the present moment, with this person, with these cards.

Believe it or not: Since that moment, I haven't felt that kind of anger again. We've played the same game. The same moves have happened. But instead of rage, I feel calm. Focused. Present.

So what changed?

I finally understood what "sitting with an emotion" actually means: Observing it. Allowing it to be there. Without judging it. Without needing it to explain itself. That's it. No magic required.

While I cannot explain why this works, the good news is, I don't need to. The emotion knew what to do all along. I just had to stop getting in its way.

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🎙 Meanwhile, on the podcast…

Can an AI bot really become a co-facilitator? Returning to the show with a new book co-authored by artificial intelligence and an AI sidekick named Nyx, is Holgar Nauheimer.

After 30 years building a facilitation legacy, Holgar shares a glimpse into his latest phase of life: his companionship with his sparring sidekick Nyx. Shaped by hundreds of questions, facilitation musings, and workshop challenges, she’s become his creative consultant and trusted confidante – freeing him to become a better facilitator. Present, attentive, and fully connected to the people!

If you think AI is making us lazy, this conversation might just change your mind.

Find out about:

• The impact of AI on facilitation, the risks, the opportunities and the benefits
• How Holger has trained his AI co-collaborator Nyx to support his ways of working
• How AI has the ability to learn and reflect our values as facilitators
• How to outsource routine tasks to AI to conserve your energy for where it counts

🎧 Click here to listen to the interview

📥 Check out my 1-page summary

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👀 Watch the unedited interview on Youtube​

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🚧 Podcast Rebranding

From January 2026, the workshops work podcast will become the Unprofessionalism podcast and you can help me shape it in two ways:

1. Share your feedforward with me via this short Google Form. I have already learned that it shall be shorter and keep the 1-page summary (promised!)
2. If you can think of a anecdote when being unprofessional turned out to be the smartest move you (or someone around you) ever made, share it with me here: https://unprofessionalism.com

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That’s it from my side! I hope you enjoy the content and find inspiration in the stories and the podcast. I wish you a week of letting things move — without needing to understand why. I’ll see you next week!

Myriam

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